positive always?

Being positive isn't always good. Just to explain my point, let me narrate a short story.

Once i was not in the best of spirits and was feeling low about my personal life, my career, in all everything. One of my friends, whom i was sharing the problems with, concluded very surgically- 'it's all upon you maddy. You can feel bad and miserable or feel positive in spite of everything and smile and be happy and not anyone know that you are unhappy. These kind of problems come always, but when the going gets tough, the tough gets going!!!'

"Wow", i thought, yes i should be positive. In spite of everything that has happened i should chose to be happy. So that whole day, i was very cheery, happy, and motivated to face the problems head on! However the bad mood returned by the end of the day. I tried to be positive again, from deep within, but could not.

Since then i have this theory, that try to remain positive, but do not do it because you ought to. Do not do it because people around you will think that you are not strong enough. When situations are bad it is ok to be sad. Do not take everything upon yourself. Yes to some extent it depends on how you think, but do not try to think positive about something that is not positive. That is sheerly cheating yourself.

Let me tell you, why you should not be positive always and not blame yourself for everything. Suppose you go to a movie, and the movie sucks big time (think of any recent RGV movies). Now the movie is bad and that's the fact. You do not need to be 'positive' and see anything good about the movie. The movie is bad and that's how it is. There is no point saying 'yes it was not upto expectation, but there were some positives, blah, blah blah.' Just say 'it sucked and was a waste of money'

This might be easy to think in case of a movie but do that for life also. All of us appreciate the fact that life has ups and downs. So when it is down, we should acknowledge it is down. Do not fake it! And beware of friends, acquaintances, self-help books that tell you to be positive and blame yourself for anything negative around you. Do not take the crap- 'it is how you see it, my boy'.

There will be bad times, but they will pass by and good times will come. Till then just be strong, but acknowledge that it's not all good. And it happens, nothings wrong with your attitude.

So, forget about positive or negative, just be yourself. And it is ok to feel sad sometimes. Do not force yourself to be positive when you can't!